Over the years, many friends have mentioned that the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey literally “Changed their life!” It has even become a popular culture reference with people referencing what it takes to be a Highly Effective Person. (And if you click the link above it is quite the marketing machine as well.)
I consider myself to be driven and effective at getting things done but right now I am uncertain of my direction. I do not know what I really want to do career wise. I had made many plans but they aren’t really working right now and my momentum is decreasing. So, what better time to read a book?
In the first pages, the author talks about how his relationships with his children have given him insight into his own immaturity and foibles. I can definitely corroborate that finding. Every day when I talk to my kids, I am humbled by how great they are and how easy it is to make mistakes as a parent. They are also so accepting of me and worry when I worry. The other day my oldest told me “You don’t need a job. Being a mom is a job.”
I know that my kids are the reason that I am in my current indecisive crisis. In the last two years, I have become accustomed to being there when they have something at school. When I worked in an office, I needed to be there for my coworkers and was always torn between the two obligations. Also, it could take hours after the work day to let the happenings at the office go so I could enjoy being with my kids. Sometimes, it didn’t happen until they were already asleep and then I would log back in to work to make sure everything was still okay.
My brain resonates with the words as Mr. Covey describes the difference between the Personality Ethic and the Character Ethic. I feel that the world is very focused on Personality. I hope and think that people still respond to Character.
It is definitely not fashionable to be reading this right now but it is the right time for me. This is going to be a good mental journey and I am glad that I started this little detour.